“I’m that awkward woman at the bar staring at you because I like your hair and you seem really nice, but I don’t want to seem weird. I’m looking for a friend who values honesty, loves Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and likes to eat burritos after midnight.”
It sometimes feels as though we should be putting out long, detailed ads to find a friend (I don’t recommend this) as adults. It can be really difficult to find someone who vibes with you and it’s exacerbated by the fact that we may not have the same opportunities to make new friends that were available to us in school or at that terrible bar gig.