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When I was growing up, I was a tomboy who hated pink. Here’s why — and what’s different for kids today.

As we gain a better understanding of gender and sex as fluid concepts, fashion is also becoming more malleable

Perspective by
Lily contributor
August 28, 2019 at 10:25 a.m. EDT

It is only now, as an adult, that I look back at my hatred of pink in childhood and see it for what it was: a kind of self-hatred of my gender, or of what society’s expectation of my gender was. I grew up in a time when “girly” was frequently thrown around as an insult. It was made very clear to me: being a girl was not something to be celebrated.

At 31, I’ve grown more comfortable with my body and the clothes I like to wear. The fashion industry is also making important steps to keep up with demand for more gender-neutral clothing. As we gain a better understanding of gender and sex as fluid concepts, fashion is also becoming more malleable. And that’s a big win for little kids everywhere who just want to feel good in the skin they’re in.