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Ask Dr. Andrea: I always say I want to make big life changes. How can I follow through?
Every new year, I say I’ll change. I wonder if I’m fooling myself.
Andrea Bonior
January 13, 2022
January 13, 2022
Perspective
Ask Dr. Andrea: My in-laws have stolen Christmas. How can I reclaim it for my kids?
I always envisioned starting new traditions with the family I created
Andrea Bonior
December 16, 2021
December 16, 2021
Perspective
Ask Sahaj: I feel stifled by my immigrant family. How can I reclaim independence?
I love my parents and grandparents, but they often have something negative to say about the choices I make
Sahaj Kaur Kohli
December 9, 2021
December 9, 2021
Perspective
Ask Dr. Andrea: I compulsively lie when telling stories. How can I stop?
I don’t know why I tell trivial lies, but my friends are starting not to trust me
Andrea Bonior
November 18, 2021
November 18, 2021
Perspective
Ask Dr. Andrea: I’m the only woman on my team. How can I stop being self-conscious about it?
I overcompensate and am always trying to fit in
Andrea Bonior
October 14, 2021
October 14, 2021
Perspective
Ask Sahaj: How can I break out of hustle culture?
Some days I get the balance right, but it feels like more a fluke than a thing in my control
Sahaj Kaur Kohli
September 24, 2021
September 24, 2021
Perspective
Ask Dr. Andrea: I think I’m a good person, but I’m so jealous of others. What can I do?
I want to be someone who can be there for other people fully
Andrea Bonior
September 9, 2021
September 9, 2021
Perspective
Ask Sahaj: When should I tell the person I’m dating about my mental health struggles?
I know the right person will like me for me
Sahaj Kaur Kohli
August 31, 2021
August 31, 2021
Perspective
Ask Dr. Andrea: How do I ask for equal time off from parenting?
It’s like we both have this parenthood job but his comes with way more vacation time
Andrea Bonior
August 12, 2021
August 12, 2021
Perspective
Ask Sahaj: I changed in the pandemic. What should I do if my friends don’t get it?
I don’t think my friends have changed, but I do wonder if my needs are different.
Sahaj Kaur Kohli
July 22, 2021
July 22, 2021
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