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Ask Dr. Andrea: I always say I want to make big life changes. How can I follow through?
Every new year, I say I’ll change. I wonder if I’m fooling myself.
Ask Dr. Andrea: My in-laws have stolen Christmas. How can I reclaim it for my kids?
I always envisioned starting new traditions with the family I created
Ask Sahaj: I feel stifled by my immigrant family. How can I reclaim independence?
I love my parents and grandparents, but they often have something negative to say about the choices I make
December 9, 2021
December 9, 2021
Ask Dr. Andrea: I compulsively lie when telling stories. How can I stop?
I don’t know why I tell trivial lies, but my friends are starting not to trust me
Ask Dr. Andrea: I’m the only woman on my team. How can I stop being self-conscious about it?
I overcompensate and am always trying to fit in
Ask Sahaj: How can I break out of hustle culture?
Some days I get the balance right, but it feels like more a fluke than a thing in my control
September 24, 2021
September 24, 2021
Ask Dr. Andrea: I think I’m a good person, but I’m so jealous of others. What can I do?
I want to be someone who can be there for other people fully
Ask Sahaj: When should I tell the person I’m dating about my mental health struggles?
I know the right person will like me for me
August 31, 2021
August 31, 2021
Ask Dr. Andrea: How do I ask for equal time off from parenting?
It’s like we both have this parenthood job but his comes with way more vacation time
Ask Sahaj: I changed in the pandemic. What should I do if my friends don’t get it?
I don’t think my friends have changed, but I do wonder if my needs are different.