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Stormy Daniels is correcting people on Twitter, proving that she knows how to handle trolls

PERSPECTIVE | She’s relentlessly thick-skinned

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March 12, 2018 at 1:08 p.m. EDT

Stormy Daniels on Twitter has the air of a very smart cat batting off a series of very dumb mice, who come at her under the delusion that the relationship is reversed.

“Scank,” one man tweeted at her on Friday. He has 94 followers and a bio that lists him as “Soldier for the Constitution.”

“The correct spelling is ‘skank,’ ” Daniels replied promptly.

“Actually, ‘skanky whore,’ ” another mouse leaped in, attempting to aid his brethren in the attack.

Daniels cheerfully wrote back: “. . . at least according to my business card.”

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As news shows bring on panel after panel to discuss Daniels’s lawsuit against President Trump and the 2006 sexual encounter she alleges they had, Daniels herself has remained off the interview circuit. (Through her attorney, she declined an interview for this piece, too.) But she’s remained on Twitter — the only medium through which the woman who is currently the most famous porn star in the world can show us how she’s handling things.

Online, she is quick, unflappable and relentlessly thick-skinned.

“Stormy is not a Skanc, she’s an all out Pig and whore,” wrote another commenter as he charged into the fray, bringing his whopping 10 followers.

“Exactly,” Daniels replied. “I’ve been trying to explain that for hours.”

Any woman who has ever laughed off an insulting comment because she feared the repercussions if she didn’t knows exactly what strings Daniels is pulling online.

Reading her entire oeuvre, her responses seem as if they could have been crafted only by someone who has spent her life in a career that puts women in vulnerable positions: naked on stage, naked in front of a camera. Someone who has learned that angry men often can’t be shouted at because it will only make them angrier. (Nor can they be ignored, because that, too, will make them angrier.) Angry men have to be teased and purred at, in a self-deprecating way, even when the goal is to get them to leave.

In other words: You don’t get to be an adult performer without learning how to handle men. And Daniels knows how to handle them all the way out the door.

Her best smackdowns are impossible to fully appreciate now: The men they were directed toward have deleted their original insults, presumably embarrassed by the verbal beating. “You know you’re supposed to read that Bible and not smoke it, right?” she wrote in response to a tweet that now comes up only as “unavailable.”

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It is difficult to resist comparisons between Daniels’s Twitter account and that of her (alleged) onetime paramour.

Trump gained a massive following — the Tweeter-in-Chief — and he uses it, like Daniels, to communicate directly with an American public from whom lawyers might otherwise try to keep him.

But unlike Daniels, Trump, on Twitter, is the opposite of thick-skinned and unflappable. He has used the medium to call his detractors “crazy,” “psycho” and a “total flunkie.”

Even from the highest perch in the land, it’s as if Trump would rather head-butt someone, metaphorically, than turn the other cheek.

Daniels and Trump: Online, one of them is often lewd, petulant, brash and self-involved. The other is a porn star.

The #MeToo movement ushered in a lot of discussions about how women have been forced to grapple with harassment, in the real world and online. It also introduced a reexamination of several sexual accusations made by women against the sitting president of the United States. Daniels — who says her encounter with Trump was consensual — is an example of the latter group.

She’s also an example of the former: “Slut and whore are words used by people who feel threatened,” she responded on Twitter to someone who had tried to shame her. “I find power in them.”

The thing is, sometimes people think they’re grabbing pussycats when they’re actually grabbing lions.

This article originally appeared in The Washington Post.