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She missed her prom 80 years ago. At 97, she finally went — and was crowned queen.

She attended with her great-grandson and her granddaughter

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June 5, 2019 at 2:44 p.m. EDT

Original story by Cathy Free for The Washington Post.

Earlier this spring, Helen Dannis, 97, was presented with a sparkling crown and a proposition. Her granddaughter, Julie Huddon, 48, said the two of them should go to the prom.

Huddon, who lives in Warwick, invited Dannis with a handmade pink invitation in the shape of a heart.

“How could I say no to that?” said Dannis. “Of course, I said yes.”

In 1939, Dannis longed to join her friends at their high school senior prom in West Warwick, R.I., but it was the end of the Great Depression and her family didn’t have money for a new dress or shoes, or even a lipstick.

"My father lost his job at the mill and my stepmother's salary from working at a department store was all the income we had," said Dannis, an only child whose mother died five days after childbirth. "So I missed the dance and stayed home."

Eighty years later, Dannis finally got the chance to make up for that missed night.

At 97 and 48, they were both a few years beyond the average age of prom goers. But Huddon’s 19-year-old son who attends the school would be there. And the Pilgrim High School principal thought it would be a hoot and agreed.

So on May 24, Huddon arranged for a trolley driver to pick up her and her grandmother, her son, Evan Huddon, 19, and two of his friends, and drive them all to the senior prom. Her son, who has spina bifida, enjoys dancing in his power wheelchair.

“To attend the prom with my great-grandson and my granddaughter made the night even more special,” Dannis said.

At the prom, Huddon had arranged for a surprise.

In coordination with principal Gerald Habershaw, Huddon had her grandmother crowned honorary prom queen.

Helen Dannis finally received the opportunity to make up for her missed prom night when when her granddaughter presented her with a sparkling crown. (Video: Ali Parker, Photo: Julie Huddon/Ali Parker)

Huddon said she came up with the idea in December, after Dannis sat on Santa’s lap for the first time.

A relative told her at the time: “You should come up with a little bucket list for your grandmother.”

Huddon, who had always been close with her grandmother, thought that was a great idea, especially since her grandmother had experienced many tragedies and difficulties in her life.

"Even though those hard times made her the strong and admirable person she is today, I wanted to do something for her to help make up for some of that," said Huddon.

When Dannis' mother died after giving birth to her, she spent the first six years of her life with her grandmother until her father remarried, she said.

“My father drove over to get me, and I met my stepmother on the day of the wedding,” said Dannis. “She raised me after that.”

Money was tight, and after missing her senior prom, Dannis said she felt so left out that she decided to drop out of school.

"I couldn't keep up with the other kids," she said. "Back then, if somebody decided to stop going to school, it didn't really matter."

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One year later, in 1940, Dannis married Lionel Valliere, a millworker like her father. They had three children — two girls and a boy — and were happily building a life together in West Warwick. Then in 1956, Valliere died of brain cancer. To pay the bills, Dannis got a job in the sewing department at Newbury’s Department Store.

"It was a hard time, raising three children on my own," she recalled. "But you do what you have to do."

Over the years, Dannis remarried three times, outliving two of her husbands. She has been married to her current husband, Eugene Dannis, a former businessman, for 27 years.

“We still live in our home and try to stay as active as we can,” she said. “I actually like to do housework. The only thing is, my husband doesn’t like to dance and I do. I’ve always loved it, especially when I can dance to a polka.”

At Pilgrim High Prom Night 2019, her husband was content to sit on the sidelines while Dannis primped for the dance.

After running a comb through her soft gray hair and putting on a light touch of red lipstick, Dannis slipped into a silky, floor-length dress in her favorite shade of lilac. Huddon had picked it up for her at J.C. Penney "because it reminded me of my Grammie," she said.

Huddon also offered to buy her grandmother a new pair of shoes, but because Dannis was nursing a bunion, she decided that comfort was key if she was going to dance the Cha-Cha and the Cupid Shuffle.

"I wanted to be able to dance, and besides, I'm a 'no fuss' woman," she said. "No perfume, no hairspray. I can get ready in under 30 minutes."

Wearing matching corsages, she and Huddon arrived with their entourage at the high school and were promptly escorted to the dance floor.

Principal Habershaw took a whirl with Dannis to the tune of the “Hully Gully” — a popular line dance song from 1959.

"We both had a great time with it, and the students were very receptive," said Habershaw.

Dannis pointed out that they didn’t play a polka.

"And the other songs were too loud,” she said. “But I still enjoyed the evening very much."

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After prom royalty was announced, she was thrilled when Habershaw told everyone that his dance partner would be crowned as honorary prom queen.

More than 300 students applauded and cheered, including her great-grandson who had shared a wheelchair dance with her.

"It was such a blessing to have my great-grandmother go to the prom with me, and it was even more special to see her crowned honorary prom queen," he said.

Evan's mother said she was "over the moon" with how her grandmother's special night unfolded.

As for Dannis, she said that her first prom was so fulfilling, she won't be adding any new wishes to her bucket list for a while.

“Skydiving? I don’t think so,” she said. “No, no, no. It’s a little too risky. I’ll stick with the Hully Gully.”