Democracy Dies in Darkness

She bought a decorative glass globe at the Goodwill. Inside, she found human ashes.

The woman’s daughter tried to find the rightful owner

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August 16, 2018 at 3:00 p.m. EDT

Adapted from a story by The Washington Post’s Allison Klein.

Toward the end of July, Anita Minks stopped by the Goodwill store near her Missouri home. She spotted a decorative glass globe, and she thought it would be nice to place a photo of her son in it. He had passed away 15 years ago, at 33, and she was hoping to add to his shrine in her living room.

But on the drive home, she saw something alarming inside the globe: human ashes.

Minks, 65, knew something had gone terribly wrong. The ashes were a familiar sight to her because she had her son’s ashes in an urn in her home.

The globe, which cost $2 and had a printed prayer inside the glass dome, played the song “Amazing Grace” when a dial was turned. It also displayed a photo of a smiling woman.

Minks called her daughter, Jeni Kinney. Her voice trembled when Minks, 65, told her daughter what was in the globe.

Minks asked Kinney: Should I bury the ashes I found in the globe or take them to a river?

But Kinney thought they should at least try to find the rightful owner.

“I was like, ‘Let me post on Facebook and see what happens,’ ” Kinney, 25, said in an interview with The Washington Post.

So she posted two grainy photos with this query: “My mom bought this little fountain thing at goodwill in farmington this morning..was going to put my brothers picture in. Has a sweet prayer and sings amazing grace. Well she gets home and it has ashes in it. This beautiful ladys picture is in it as well. Please help find her family.”

By the following day, her post had been shared more than 1,000 times and there were dozens of comments, including one from someone who said she knew the smiling woman in the picture.

The commenter said: “Omg that’s momma Tammy!!!!!!!! Thats one of my good friends mom . . . Seriously . . . Omg thank you for not throwing it out. This momma was everything to her daughter I mean everything!!!

UPDATE! Found her daughter via facebook! Thank you to all those who has shared my post! My mom bought this little...

Posted by Jeni Kinney on Tuesday, July 31, 2018

So Kinney contacted the daughter, Jasmin Ellis, 22, on Facebook. Ellis said she was stunned when she saw the photo of her mother, who died of cancer in 2013, just two days shy of her 40th birthday. The photo was taken in happier times, years before Ellis’s mother became ill, and before her father died when a tree he was cutting down fell on him.

“I went through a lot of emotions real quick. Who would just donate somebody’s stuff like that? When you look at it you can tell it’s a personal item. You can tell it meant something,” Ellis said. “I got angry and then sad and then happy they found it. I was lucky it happened that way.”

It It turned out that her mother, Tammy Ellis, bought the globe in a hospital gift shop toward the end of her life. She liked the prayer inside that said, “Your presence we miss, your memory we treasure, loving you always, forgetting you never.”

Tammy Ellis gave it to her best friend and told the friend that she wanted her to have it and place some of Ellis’s ashes inside when she died, Jasmin Ellis said. Several family members also were given some of the ashes, including Jasmin Ellis.

After Tammy Ellis died, the friend followed instructions and put her ashes and the photo in the globe. She recently was preparing to move and put her things, including the globe, in temporary storage. Her storage unit was burglarized, and the globe somehow ended up at Goodwill, Jasmin Ellis said.

When she saw Kinney’s Facebook message, she responded, intent on getting her mother’s ashes back. She drove about an hour to Kinney’s home. When she arrived, there were many hugs and tears. Ellis said she has the globe on a shelf in her bedroom, where it will stay.

She was overwhelmingly grateful that Kinney found not only her mother’s ashes but her.

“I know they took time out of their day to do the right thing,” Ellis said. “They took another person’s feelings into account, and that’s awesome. You really don’t see that nowadays. I’m so grateful for those people.”