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Lily Lines: The biggest moments for women at the Emmys

Plus, a study finds 1 in 16 U.S. women are forced into sex for the first time

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September 22, 2019 at 11:37 p.m. EDT

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This week:

More states are moving to protect natural hairstyles at work, a study finds 1 in 16 U.S. women are forced into first-time sex, and Instagram changes its policies on weight-loss products.

Quick hits

Today’s featured news

‘Fleabag’ wins big at the Emmys, plus other standout moments

There was a clear winner at the 71st Primetime Emmy Awards on Sunday night. Not only did the British series “Fleabag” win for best comedy series — the top award in comedy television — but creator and star Phoebe Waller-Bridge won for best writing and lead actress in a comedy series.

Other highlights from the night included an acceptance speech from Michelle Williams, who won lead actress in a limited series or movie for “Fosse/Verdon.” In her acceptance speech, Williams spoke about women — and especially women of color — gaining equal pay. “I see this as an acknowledgement of what is possible when a woman is trusted to discern her own needs, feels safe enough to voice them and respected enough that they’ll be heard,” she said. Ahead of the show, some pointed out that no women of color were nominated in the lead actress in a comedy series category.

Many applauded the representation of LGBTQ-focused shows this year. Billy Porter, the star of FX’s “Pose,” made history as the first openly gay black man to win lead actor in a drama series.

Here are more key takeaways from the night.

Two dictionary definitions draw attention

Over 30,000 people signed a petition last week in an effort to get Oxford University Press (OUP) to change its definition of “woman,” which offers synonyms for the word that include “bitch, besom, piece, bit, mare, baggage, wench, petticoat, frail, bird, bint, biddy, filly.” OUP publishes the Oxford English Dictionary, and although those synonyms do not appear in the dictionary, they are featured in other reference books and the online dictionary Lexico.

Meanwhile, Merriam-Webster added the nonbinary pronoun “they” to its dictionary on Tuesday. “They” may be used to refer to “a single person whose gender identity is nonbinary,” Merriam-Webster said. The pronoun is used by many nonbinary individuals who do not identify exclusive as male or female.

1 in 16 U.S. women report being coerced or forced into sex for the first time

A new report surveying over 13,000 U.S. women ages 18 to 44 between 2011 and 2017 found that 6.5 percent of women were forced into having sex during their first experience with intercourse. That translates to 3.35 million women nationwide that were forced into first-time sex. The average age at which women were forced into first-time sex was 15.6, compared with 17.4 for women who reported a voluntary first sexual experience. Women of color and women in poverty also reported higher rates of forced first-time sex.

The study’s authors wrote that women whose first experience with sex was rape reported higher rates of unwanted first pregnancy, abortion and health problems.

More states are moving to protect natural hairstyles at work

Black hair has long been politicized and stigmatized in the workplace: Instituting grooming policies that may prohibit certain styles, but more commonly call for “professional” or not “extreme” looks, can disproportionately lead to bias against black employees or students. As part of the latest natural hair movement, some black women are pushing back against the practice of heat or chemical straightening and instead adopting locs, braids and soft curls. Several states, including New Jersey, Tennessee, Michigan, Wisconsin and Illinois, have caught on: They recently proposed legislation to explicitly ban race-based hair discrimination, joining California and New York, which were the first to sign legislation into law earlier this year.

Looking toward 2020

What’s happening on the campaign trail

Elizabeth Warren becomes the one to watch in the Democratic primary

Sen. Elizabeth Warren (Mass.) is leading a respected poll of likely Iowa caucus-goers. The poll, released Saturday by the Des Moines Register with CNN and Mediacom, had Warren in the lead with 22 percent. Former vice president Joe Biden, who led the poll in June, fell by 3 percentage points to a close 20 percent, putting the two in a statistical tie. Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-Vt.) was a distant third at 11 percent.

As she rises in the polls, Warren, who spoke at one of her largest rallies to date last week in New York City, has become a target for other candidates. As The Washington Post reports, senior campaign staff of four rival campaigns say that they want to increase voter scrutiny of Warren, an effort largely led by Biden, who has raised questions about her “candor.”

ICYMI

Five need-to-know stories in 100 words or less

1. On Friday, climate strikes drew millions of young protesters worldwide. Last week, 16-year-old climate activist Greta Thunberg testified in front of Congress, urging lawmakers to “listen to the scientists.” World leaders are gathered in New York for the United Nations climate summit, which begins today.

2. After a court struck down a ban in Colorado prohibiting women from going topless in public, the practice was effectively legalized in six states: Utah, Colorado, Wyoming, New Mexico, Kansas and Oklahoma.

3. When ABC News announced that Cokie Roberts, an Emmy-winning journalist, died Tuesday at 75, an outpouring of praise flooded social media — particularly from women journalists who said Roberts paved the way for them.

4. Ahead of the Sept. 24 release of his memoir, Jonathan Van Ness of Netflix’s “Queer Eye” revealed that he is HIV-positive and has a history with addiction. In an interview with the New York Times, Van Ness said, “It’s hard for me to be as open as I want to be when there are certain things I haven’t shared publicly. These are issues that need to be talked about.”

5. On Thursday, Washington Mystics star Elena Delle Donne was named league MVP for the second time in her career, becoming the first player in WNBA history to win the title with two teams. (She won her first MVP award with the Chicago Sky in 2015.)

Powerful words

A quotable moment

Actress Jameela Jamil, known for her role as Tahani Al-Jamil on NBC’s “The Good Place,” has long been an outspoken advocate for body positivity. In the past, she launched a petition urging celebrities to stop promoting diet products and has met with Instagram about the issue. Last week, Jamil applauded an announcement that Instagram will ban users younger than 18 from seeing advertisements for weight-loss products or cosmetic surgery. The updated policy is an attempt to “reduce the pressure that people can sometimes feel as a result of social media,” the company said in a news release.

Speaking to Elle UK, Jamil — who also created I Weigh, an Instagram account aimed at celebrating people’s attributes beyond their physical features — said: “The issue is at its peak because, in my day, you’d have to search for ages to find this toxic information, but now it finds you because of algorithms.”

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