As my seasonal depression begins to fade, I have been looking deep within myself to understand how and why I go to such dark places. Recently, I had cocktails with a friend. She revealed a nugget of truth about herself that was so powerful it made me reconsider how I value my relationships. Specifically, how I value them more than I value myself. I’m so deeply invested in my friends and family that I barely take care of myself. Often, after weeks of ignoring my own needs and boundaries, I crash hard. It’s time to start putting myself first. I am a strong advocate of helping loved ones, but you can’t serve others when your well has run dry.