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I used makeup as a shield. Here’s why — and how I learned to stop.

Leaving home with a bare face was terrifying at first

Perspective by
Lily contributor
March 24, 2019 at 9:02 a.m. EDT

We’re in the midst of an exciting era where makeup is no longer “just for girls” — it’s an art form for all genders. But in my experience, makeup wasn’t always an avenue for self-expression; it became a shield.

For years, I was afraid to leave my house without wearing makeup. I used to believe that if I didn’t look pristine, it would be my own fault if I encountered microaggressions. Now, after 15 years of adding extra hours in my daily routine to look “presentable,” I have grown tired of worrying. My relationship with makeup has evolved to become a source of joy, not a mask to hide behind.