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Being afraid of or angry doesn’t serve anyone

Perspective by
Lily contributor
July 15, 2018 at 9:45 a.m. EDT

One of the most difficult conversations we had to have with our family when we decided to foster was about reunification. They were worried for us, and rightly so. Foster care is inherently sad; we’re temporary parents to a child who has already been failed by their first set.

But the system often fails the parents as well. Being afraid of or angry at our foster daughter’s birth mom doesn’t serve anyone; not her and not us. That’s the hardest part. The easiest part is how sweet Daisy is, and the fact she’s already sleeping through the night.