The Washington PostDemocracy Dies in Darkness

I always assumed I’d become a parent. Here’s why I’m not so sure anymore.

I just turned 33

Perspective by
Lily contributor
November 17, 2019 at 9:17 a.m. EST

Growing up as a girl in the optimistic ’90s made me imagine I would eventually become a parent. Becoming a responsible, independent woman in the feminist climate-changing 2010s makes me doubt it. While I feel some anxiety about whether I want kids or not, I try to stay calm, because good decisions are made out of love and not fear.